I’m happy to say that Why Marriages Fail was picked up by a few large-scale sites, generating a significant number of hits to the article. While many had positive thoughts about the piece there were a number of people who were very critical of it. Some described it as “simplistic” while others said it was too cynical. The reality is that there are entire books dedicated to the subject of marital discord so any blog post will necessarily fail in comprehensively covering the topic. I wrote the article as an attempt to increase awareness and empower people who are either contemplating marriage, who are in marriages that have problems or those whose marriages have dissolved and are wondering “how the fuck did this happen?”
The Last Psychiatrist has weighed in on why marriages fail. I admittedly haven’t followed his work very closely. This is because I’ve viewed his approach as “I’m the doctor and therefore have it all together, you are not and therefore are completely fucked up.”* This is a mindset within society at large that I’m attempting to debunk. However, having re-read my post on marriage I definitely viewed it as perhaps overly pedantic, possibly because I’ve never been married and therefore haven’t experienced the struggles firsthand. Therefore I shouldn’t be throwing stones at The Last Psychiatrist’s house…today.
Click here to read his position on how to destroy a marriage. While he describes different reasons on marital discord I don’t see those as antithetical to mine. Rather I see what he proposes as a result of the factors I enumerated earlier.
* I’m also not a big fan of mental health professionals writing anonymously.