Some More Hate Mail

For early installments of hate mail, click here and here.

After the New York Jets pulled a “close, but no cigar” for the second straight year, I considered giving up on football altogether. I’m a fan that teeters on obsessive, and the agony of defeat becomes stronger every year. It’s like a virus that lives in my chest which grows in spades after every disappointing season ends. I don’t talk to anyone outside of work for days at a time, and after last season ended I slept in my Jets shorts and Nick Mangold jersey for six nights in a row. If you knew how much of a clean freak I am, that last statement would shock you.

Instead of abandoning the sport, however, I chose to take solace in reading one of the Jets’ blogs. The writer isn’t all that great, but I like to read the Comments thread to partake in a little “misery loves company.” Most fans are angry and depressed, and almost all have the solution to make sure the Jets win the Super Bowl next year. What’s really fascinating about the Comments section, though, are the people who aren’t Jets’ fans; rather, those who truly despise them. They write walls of hate throughout the thread, talking trash and sometimes complete nonsense (literally):

Mark Sanchez belief you guys suck all night.

NyJETS you all not no Brady, Tom ### you all.

Suck on theez, Jets fans, families, coaches, friends, fans and families.

I’m still bizarrely curious as to why people spend so much mental energy writing hate all over the internet. By no means am I some tree-hugger who loves everyone (just read my Twitter feed for countless examples). But I can’t fathom going to a website that isn’t even written for me (e.g., a blog for Patriots’ fans) to bash their team, with or without making any sense.

Why do people engage in so much online hate? Jealousy? Anger issues? Simple disdain for their common man? Because they can without consequence (this is particularly attractive for those who love to remain anonymous, talking shit without having to put a name to their words)? It’s probably a combination and varies with each person. Regardless of reason, when it’s directed at me and this site, I find it somewhat flattering (not to mention often quite humorous). I suppose it’s because I’ve struck a nerve on the person, that the words have impacted them in some way, albeit negatively. That’s much more preferable to apathy. The last thing a writer wants is to have someone shrug their shoulders after reading.

So, without further ado, more hate for your reading pleasure:

You are more pretentious than even your stereotypical shrink. Pathetic.

If you actually did understand human behavior, you wouldn’t be trying to pull this shit off. Take a social psych course and quit the quackery. Asshats like you and Dr. Phil fuck things up for the rest of us. Stop it. One last thing: you seem to talk about yourself in the third person. Perhaps you’re showing signs of depersonalisation? Hmmm? Better have that checked out.

i. hate. you!

You stupid quack cunt! Didn’t I tell you to die already? You think you’ll be missed? Your soft science just fucks up people more than they already are. Rot in hell.

You honestly think someone is going to buy your book? Really? I’m surprised your parents haven’t killed themselves for raising such a failure.

On that note, have a great weekend!

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13 Responses to “Some More Hate Mail”

  1. T.J. says:

    Wow, someone needs a hug.

    And a baseless comparison to Dr. Phil?

    My personal theory is that people need an outlet for their aggression.

    And talking trash in the real world often results in beggar teeth and Irish sunglasses.

    So they go online and take all of their darkness for their crummy jobs or annoying kids or asshole bosses or cheating girlfriends or whatever and project it into some sort of hyuduken toward a channel that (if it bothers them so much) they won’t change. A lot like the Parent’s Television Council, really.

    My point is, that if you can be anyone you want to be online and there are no physical consequences for your iterations, then hell, why not? At least the haters provide entertainment for the rest of the rational.

    My name is Ronald MacDonald, and I approve this message.

  2. Nik says:

    I have a theory on why we see so much hate on the internet. In the good ol’ US of A, aggression is punished harshly, both by the law and the way your peers view you. So, that internalized anger is released online against people and opinions that aren’t actually offensive. I’ve read every article you’ve written, and though you present ideas people disagree with, I can’t remember anything that would warrant your death, unless I missed your “I raped Jack when his Mom was late to pick him up” post (P.S. I loved those Jack posts, what happened to him?).

    It’s strange that people have such profound hate for therapy and psychology. You may believe that there are better ways to help people, but why do those that believe psychology is a farce hate the individuals practicing it? The goal of a therapist is to help people, shouldn’t that be a noble endeavor?

    “Your soft science just fucks up people more than they already are.” What is your belief regarding evidence that multiple personality disorder was/is caused by therapists suggesting that people have it?

  3. dawn says:

    oh my god!!! LOL THe one telling you to die?? Uhhh….SCARY.

  4. Christoffer says:

    I find this helps explain much of human behaviour on the internet:

  5. Lola says:

    Personally, I would take hate mail as a compliment.
    Constructive criticism is one thing. Asking questions is a perfect way to draw attention to something you consider annoying or wrong in any way, without direct attacking, which can look like an act of jealousy, aggression, pure dissatisfaction with one’s life, you name it… but it won’t hit the target!
    And this… it’s a desperate need to hurt someone, because you can’t stand that there is someone out there who is successful and worshiped, and you’re not. And when you don’t have anything smart to say, but you’re feeling irritated by your own misery, you can try and throw a few lousy insults at someone, and hope this person feels as shitty as you do. What a success! There is no-one out there who is better than you are! Thumbs up for you!

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  7. Jenna says:

    Wow – of all people to categorize you with – Dr. Phil?? REALLY?!?!?

  8. BL1Y says:

    People express so much hate and anger online because they’re not allowed to do so in the normal lives.

    Your secretary is slow getting you the files you asked for because she was too busy doing online shopping? You’re not allowed to chastise her, or else now you’re the prick who thinks he’s above the support staff.

    Boss tells you Friday that you’re going to have to work all weekend? Better not say anything negative to him, not even asking that you be given a little more notice next time. No way, a job is a privilege, not a right, you’re lucky to have it at all, so shut up and get to work!

    You girlfriend’s BFF thinks that The Secret is the greatest book ever written? Don’t try pointing out that being a “philosopher” or “visionary” doesn’t make you an expert on quantum physics, or else you’re in for a night of hearing how much of a jerk you are.

    If you go through your every day life not allowed to call out bullshit when you see it, or even offer a mild criticism, it’s understandable that you’re going to explode as soon as you find an outlet.

    Though, in Rob’s case, everything everyone said happens to be true. Until you can write me a prescription, stop calling yourself “Doctor.”

  9. DrRamblings says:

    People used to claim catharsis when expressing aggression, but spewing aggression online just reinforces the cycle of displaced anger/emotion. There is something sad and scary about the maladjustment, as the people tend to be the quiet ones who don’t have any other healthy outlet.

  10. DrRamblings says:

    Ps. This is one reason I don’t blog anymore. My next blog will be about neuronal abnormalities and similarly esoteric stuff, as it is harder to hate on and frankly more interesting to me.

  11. Raul says:

    In all fairness Dr Phil is a douche…

  12. DrRamblings says:

    Dr. Phil was a forensic psychologist who worked primarily as a consultant for court cases and not as a therapist. Go figure.

  13. Amber says:

    I don’t find you pretentious at all doc, in fact quite the opposite. Although I do commend the use of the term asshat by the anonymous hate mailer. That did make me giggle!