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  1. Guiltridden says:

    Thanks to DRH and Di for your positive words. Yes, we all know about that Pandora’s box…it’s very difficult to guess the potential reactions when you haven’t been in contact so long. DRH, can’t remember your FLs position – does he reciprocate what you feel?

  2. Down the Rabbit Hole says:

    Guiltridden: yes. But now we no longer speak after a 2 year rekindled relationship. He is Guiltridden as am I. And trying to salvage his marriage.

  3. Guiltridden says:

    Oh no.. Poor you. Are you married too? Are there children on either side?

    In some ways I’m grateful to LL that he has prevented any chance of going down that path as I know it just would be so complicated when one, or both , partners are married….I never wanted ‘just’ an affair, if you know what I mean ( although I can’t say I wouldn’t have been tempted if that was an option!) I suppose remaining friends if we both have the will and willpower is the best outcome possible….

  4. Down the Rabbit Hole says:

    @Guiltridden: I strongly advise not going there. Yes I am married too. Children are adults, however his spouse has threatened to make both our lives miserable. He does love her but I also believe afraid of her ability to poison his relationship with the kids. I don’t blame him. It was I who had the chance to marry him years ago and I chose not to. Very young. Naive.

  5. Down the Rabbit Hole says:

    Guiltridden: stay friends if you can but it will be difficult if not impossible to not go down the rabbit hole. It is best for all to leave the marriage first. Very scary step to take. Or be thankful for the marriage you have and try to make it better. I am trying. Strangely enough, the relationship helped me detach a bit from my marital insecurities. I can set boundaries now that I couldn’t before. I no longer tolerate certain behaviors that I enabled. And I now understand,the dynamic involved when my spouse cheated on me years ago. I contributed to the breakdown in our marriage and take responsibility. That said, I also recognize there are things that can’t be fixed. 30 years of neglect takes its toll. My marriage may not survive. Time will tell.

  6. Have Faith says:

    Guilt Ridden
    I wonder what you mean by your comment about messing up your husband’s life so badly? How have you done that? I think it’s time you stop feeling so guilty!

    Having feelings for someone else is nothing to feel guilty about. We can’t control our feelings in that way. We can control our actions, and choose to do THINGS, such as to have an affair (which your husband has already done!!) but we can’t choose to NOT feel love for someone. BTW, is your husband still wracked with guilt over his affair? Probably not.

    When my husband found out I had talked to my FL he did not handle it well. All I did was talk to FL, too. Yet my husband almost had a break down. You know what – I don’t feel guilty for my husband’s reaction. Of course I did at the time, but I’ve come to realize that I’m not responsible for my husband’s behaviour. No one is ever responsible for another person’s behaviour. People will guilt trip you and try and make you feel responsible, but you are NOT.

    On the question of love vs commitment – there is a theory that romantic love consists of three components. Intimacy, passion and commitment. I think with most of us here, in our marriages, we have the commitment part. We may still have the passion, but what is lacking is the intimacy. I think the intimacy is the glue that holds the marriage together. Most of us have no problem with commitment (after all that’s something that was drilled into our heads from the time we were little) and the passion(sexual attraction) usually exists, as least in the beginning of the relationship. But without intimacy the marriage is doomed (at least doomed in the sense that both partners will continue to be happy in the marriage.) Is it too much to ask that all three can exist at once?

    Down the Rabbit Hole
    You say your FL is trying to rekindle his marriage……earlier you said his wife was a vindictive bitch who was trying to emotionally blackmail him. Sounds as if she has some serious mental health issues…..How sad that he would want to try and save a marriage like that. THAT is not a marriage at all, more of a business partnership ……..maybe not even that! How sad that people would compromise so much on the most important aspects of their life.

  7. Down the Rabbit Hole says:

    Have Faith: yes. His wife can be a bitch. And I totally agree that intamacy is the glue that is lacking from many relationships. Emotional intimacy is not there for me. Never will be. Spouse incapable. His spouse has already turned kids from prior marriages against their fathers. He sees what will and can happen. It isn’t true love to be in a controlling relationship. He has to see that for himself. And eventually I think he will. But for now I move on as he is trying to do.

  8. Have Faith says:

    Down the Rabbit Hole
    I don’t think cheating is always the fault of both partners. If someone is going to cheat it’s not always because something is lacking in the marriage, sometimes it’s just the nature of the person. Once a cheater always a cheater is often true. Of course, I think if someone has that type of nature, their marriage is probably lacking in some areas. I think cheating is a complicated issue…… can be due to a variety of things. The fact is some people will never cheat even if they are tempted to – it’s just not in their nature. Bottom line is I don’t think anyone who’s spouse has cheated should feel that they are to blame.

  9. Guiltridden says:

    @DRH I can soo relate to this ‘Or be thankful for the marriage you have and try to make it better. I am trying. Strangely enough, the relationship helped me detach a bit from my marital insecurities. I can set boundaries now that I couldn’t before. I no longer tolerate certain behaviors that I enabled. And I now understand,the dynamic involved when my spouse cheated on me years ago.’
    I too now make it known to my H about his anger issues and am finally allowing myself more self respect… i’d sort of given up on myself and my marriage… And whilst I wasn’t wholly to blame for my Hs affair, my remaining ‘faithful’ to my LL in my heart provoked a lot of our problems. Now I am trying to move on as I know I can’t ever be with LL

  10. skeptic/sketch says:

    Guitridden…. As before, your story resonates with me… change a few things and this is my story with my FL.. I just hadn’t “hidden” those feelings all those years, they came upon me moreso after we reconnected.. BUT… my FL and yours are so alike… I think they’re both good men, and their familes are important to them. I told mine once I understood that his family does – and should – trump me when it comes to his affection. I get that.. I do! Just like you do.. And it took me many years to get past feeling so “rejected” by the NC.. and at least you don’t seem to have that! AND you’re really moving quicker than I did into the “acceptance” phase.. Just know there’s someone else out there who’s been through almost the same exact experience… and I’ve resigned myself to “maybe someday if we’re ever both free” too! Hang in there!! ((hugs))

  11. Down the Rabbit Hole says:

    Have Faith: I agree it is not always the fault of both partners. And some are definitely the cheat once cheat again types. I know I am not that type even though I let it happen. And my FL is not either. That is probably why we both felt so guilty. I don’t think my spouse felt much guilt. If he did, it was fleeting at best. But I forgave him a long time ago. Because the alternative was divorce. Small kids at the time. Just not a good option then.

  12. Have Faith says:

    How has remaining faithful in your heart to your FL provoked problems in your marriage? Do you mean that it has prevented you from loving your husband?

  13. Down the Rabbit Hole says:

    Skeptic/sketch: you just summed up my situation too. Hoping for someday, respect the boundaries of current situation while trying to move forward. Unlike GR, I am struggling daily. Certain songs make me cry. Being alone is hell because my mind wanders. Heartbroken.

  14. Guiltridden says:

    @ Havefaith
    With hindsight things become clearer…yes basically LL has always been and will always been ‘the one’. The problem is I realised too late I’d made the wrong choice – I’d ‘dumped’ him for H as he would do as it was too late to get LL back – H loved me and I thought that would be enough. I’ve tried hard to be the perfect wife…. But that’s the point..having to try, rather than it coming naturally, when you’re living a lie.
    I said a horrible thing at the birth of our first child under the effect of anaesthetic – I think you can guess what that might have been….and have often not treated him with the love and respect he deserved, that probably someone else could have given him.
    I never had the courage to leave him… And for what or whom? And why? h is happy enough with me…It didn’t really matter for me if I couldn’t be with my LL.
    I sound so negative but we’ve had a good life together and I’m sure there are many people in a lot worse relationships than ours… And I made my bed so I have had to lie in it. And it has become a bed has offers comfort and familiarity over the years..
    @ Skeptic .. Of course I got on with my life and outwardly people think I’ve been happy – great family etc …and for weeks, months and even years I’d given up thinking about LL as I never thought we’d ever see each other again and as I’ve said before I think I’d never considered trying to get in touch fearing what might happen and how rejected I would feel if he didn’t feel the same as me.. As was the case. Though strangely he went to my parents place a couple of times to get my news and had tried to contact me over the years….which led me to believe something was still smouldering there…

  15. Down the Rabbit Hole says:

    @Guiltridden: we have much in common.

  16. Dreamer says:

    Whoever it was that said the pain starts all over again after I dream of being in the arms of the FL or LL is so true! It’s just one big loop isn’t it? I recently had a conversation with my F Al and we met as children and there has been a strong significant bond throughout our lives even though many years have passed since we reconnected however the bond was just a strong during the reconnection. Unfortunate it is that we were both married and had to end up ceasing all contact for a while. I hope to end up with him in the end but until then I will be in this perpetual loop of the heart. I would run away with him tomorrow if he would-

  17. Have Faith says:

    Another Dreamer? Maybe you should choose a different name.

  18. Forever A Dreamer says:

    Unbelievable! Now someone is trying to steal my name! That was NOT me posting above.

  19. Forever A Dreamer says:

    Please, RE: “I can’t even begin to imagine all the emotions that I would feel upon seeing him again.”

    But since your LL is the one who “gets” you, and you know (or at least have a really good idea) how much he cares about you, shouldn’t there be a certain comfort level between you? Any nervousness that one of you might have should be cancelled out by the knowledge that the other person is just as nervous, I would think. –Not that I’ve been able to have the experience of this personally (at least, so far…), but my guess would be that the nervousness would only last UNTIL the actual meeting. As soon as you saw that the other person was just as happy to see you, I’d bet that you’d have more of a sense of finding …HOME again –and all of the stress of the suspense would disappear! It’s the dragging out of the anticipation that probably causes the needless suffering in this regard.

    RE: “I think he is more afraid of the aftermath of meeting.”

    Do you know specifically what your LL is afraid will happen in the aftermath? (You seem so sweet, Please, that it’s hard to imagine your LL fearing that you’d be demanding or clingy or anything!)

  20. Forever A Dreamer says:

    There must be different people using the Anon (with a capital) name, right? I sure wish that I knew what was going on…

    (And now with someone posting, pretending to be me! You know, I’ll be gone from here soon enough –and whoever wants can then take my name! :-D)

    The recent Anon, RE: “The One who was Bound is another name Dreamer was using at that point in time. I won’t point out the clue in that statement, but to me it’s obvious. Also interesting is her response to that post.”

    I don’t usually respond to Anons, but I just have to say that I don’t recall responding at all to the twisting of my comment about love covering a multitude of sins, so if you’d let me know what interesting response I had, I’d appreciate it (I’m not being sarcastic; I’m really just curious). You are right that I did see that post as a message to me from my LL. I believed it to be one of his “shoves” when he got angry with me about something. :-(

  21. Forever A Dreamer says:

    Have Faith & Di: Ladies, thank you for your, um… concern. Let me assure you that I’m fine. My health (in ALL ways) hasn’t been this good in many years, in fact! I do still get some sleepless nights now & then (probably a medication-related issue), and when I do, I simply allow myself to be mentally productive (instead of stressing about my inability to sleep)!

    Have Faith, I have no idea what I’ve done to give you such an animosity towards me. I’ve tried to be nothing but kind to you.

  22. Forever A Dreamer says:

    Sketch: I wasn’t able to view your Paul McCartney link, yet (technical difficulties), but I’m looking forward to watching it!

  23. Forever A Dreamer says:

    Guiltridden et al: I’m sorry that I didn’t make it more clear that the slant of my advice right now is for my own situation with my LL Friend and for similar circumstances (where the two people are STUCK until a decision can be made by one of them). It feels just torturous, and when it’s been going on too long, I think that there’s no substitute for two people sitting down, face-to-face, and having the honest conversation (about their feelings, their goals, their values, etc…). You have already met with your lost love, and it sounds like you weren’t able to get him to have that conversation with you in a direct way. Indirectly, you did, though …right? If you told him how you feel and what you want, and he has done the same, then the sad truth may be that you simply weren’t “on the same page.” Indirect answers are SO much less conclusive & satisfying, but at least you were able to get the one-on-one time to talk to him. You are left with the sad soul-searching on your own, then –about what you want your future to look like going forward without your LL. I do believe that, despite the fact that there is much commonality of feeling in our reconnections, EACH situation is unique. But maybe you can take what you’ve learned about yourself to heart (for instance, it might clarify for you what has been missing in your life, so that you can set some new goals in light of your discovery). I like your determination to turn something that’s painful into a positive in your life. Good luck to you –and all who are in that situation!

  24. Forever A Dreamer says:

    Wanting Someone to make you happy is puppy love.
    Wanting Someone to be happy is love.
    Wanting to be The One who makes Someone happy is being in true love.

    I’m giving this summary to my son who will soon turn 17 (eek!) and is trying to navigate the difficult world of romantic love! Ah, to be 17 again –but with all of our hard-won knowledge! “Youth is wasted on the young” –as the song lyrics say…

  25. Have Faith says:

    Dreamer(the original one)
    Animosity? I’m sorry but I’m confused. Could you explain? If you are seeing my comments animosity I really think you are the only one doing so. I would apologize if I knew what to apologize for :)

  26. Forever A Dreamer says:

    I’m sorry that I misinterpreted you then, Have Faith. :-) It seemed to me that you were being very quick to jump on & criticize me after nearly every post. I’m glad if that wasn’t the case!

  27. Have Faith says:

    I looked back to see what I had written to you.I was only pointing out that you seemed to be making assumptions about what your friend was thinking, or as TLWR calls it, magical thinking.Sorry if I sounded critical. I thought if you had a good nights sleep things would look better. If you keep making assumptions you are likely to drive yourself crazy. …..I should know, lol. I’ve done the same thing myself!

  28. PleaseGodCanIBeWithLL says:

    I would definitely be nervous and exited with anticipation in the days leading up to a meeting with LL if it ever happens. The emotions I was referring to would be the ones I would feel upon actually seeing him face to face. Home is a beautiful word…and meaningful because LL used that word when we were together.

    As far as the aftermath, I think if we actually had a face to face meeting, he would not be able to keep his feelings as compartmentalized as he has been able. Pandora’s box would be fully open. The carefully constructed façade that is his life, may totally blow up. Mine too. Would we be able to go back to our separate lives and continue as we have been? Or would there be some massive changes? His GF has the potential to dessimate him financially and professionally. They work at the same place and also run a business together. She can be ruthless and would have no problem raking him over the coals. At the beginning of this reconnect, he asked me why didn’t I come find him sooner, before he had so much to lose. Believe me, I wish I would have.

  29. Down the Rabbit Hole says:

    @PleaseGod: how sad. Your LL sounds trapped with significant repercussions possible. Mine is also somewhat trapped too albeit for different reasons. I thought when I finally saw him after all these years it would be easy. I was so nervous just before that I nearly threw up and passed out. He was shaking. After the initial queasiness and tremors passed we were just fine. :)

  30. Forever A Dreamer says:

    Ahh, that’s so sad, Please. Wow, your LL has really cycled through the excuses, hasn’t he?! I hate to say it, but it may be for the best if you don’t end up with him –because …would you really want to be with someone who valued his stuff over your love? I know that I wouldn’t! You deserve someone who doesn’t make lame excuses and is willing to stay with (basically) a ruthless live-in business partner –just so that he can hang onto as much of his money as possible. You’re such a sweet person and deserve so much more from the man you love!

    Have Faith, no worries! :-)

  31. Forever A Dreamer says:

    TLWR, I started a post to respond to yours, but I’ll have to finish it tomorrow.

  32. Forever A Dreamer says:

    DRH, RE: “I was so nervous just before that I nearly threw up and passed out.”

    I just have such a tough time imagining getting THAT nervous if I finally got to see my LL! I’m sure that I’d have a lot of butterflies, but my happiness would overshadow my nerves, I’m sure. 😀

    I’m glad that you able to be just fine for the rest of the reconnection!

  33. Anon with a capital A says:

    Forever a Dreamer, as you well know, there are at least 3 people using the Anon name.
    As for the post I mentioned earlier, you did reply. Anyone can scroll back and see your response. The interesting thing about that Anon post is this line:

    “Love covers sins but leaving you was not a sin. It was a choice.”
    And ends with this:
    “You can love someone fully but accept they don’t treat you the way they should, and that is the point you need to walk.”

    You replied with this:
    One who was BOUND to figure it out says:
    June 23, 2015 at 12:15 am
    Anon, RE: “You can love someone fully but accept they don’t treat you the way they should, and that is the point you need to walk.”
    And I won’t bother reposting the rest.

    Now you say you thought this post was from your FL….why? Did he ever leave you? I don’t think so.

    Whenever you are ready to tell the truth, Dreamer…….You have lied to the people on this site long enough.

  34. WILLIAM says:

    Bob “the 8th” says:
    July 27, 2015 at 10:12 pm

    “William, I can identify with your situation quite well. When I do return to this site from time-to-time your postings are ones I specifically search for.”

    [W: I specifically look for your posts, too, Bob. I feel that our situations have many similarities, and it really helps to know that someone else/others understand(s) about the things that we are going through.

    I have some big family reunion events coming up this weekend, but you touched on some other things in your above response (the complete version) that really struck a chord with me. I’ll try to tell of what piqued my interest sometime early next week, since it is a very important part of my “FLAD journey”. I had meant to address the subject at some point, but “now” (next week) seems like as good a time as any. It is such an amazing coincidence how others on here seem to mention a certain topic/aspect of my predicament at such opportune times. It all seems to “fit” together just like a puzzle at times. Oh how I wish that my FL/LL saga had played out just as well !!]

  35. WILLIAM says:

    @Forever A Dreamer & Just Once,

    Just Once: RE: “What’s broken is broken — and I’d rather remember it as it was than mend it and see the broken places as long as I lived.”

    F A D: Ah, so you (Just Once) subscribe to WILLIAM’s “hang onto the fantasy at all costs” philosophy! I’m afraid that I don’t accede to that theory myself.

    [W: I’m kind of confused by the above response (both parts). Dreamer, I’m not sure where you pulled the “hang onto the fantasy at all costs” thing from, or how it “ties-in” to the quote from Just Once.]

  36. Forever A Dreamer says:

    WILLIAM, RE: “Dreamer, I’m not sure where you pulled the “hang onto the fantasy at all costs” thing from, or how it “ties-in” to the quote from Just Once”

    Hi, WILLIAM. I was referring to past discussions that we’ve had where I’ve encouraged you to let your FL know that you had regrets about not pursuing things with her. You have always averred that you would rather hang onto your fantasy than to risk hearing that she didn’t return your feelings.

    I didn’t know that Just Once felt the same way. He would rather not have to deal with the issues of the present (what is “broken” and needing “mending”). Instead of having to put in the hard work to fix things, he would rather “remember it as it was.”

    I hope that clarifies my post for you. I’m looking forward to reading more of your story next week, WILLIAM.

  37. Forever A Dreamer says:

    Okay, “Anon with a capital A,” this was my original post with the quote:

    {One who was BOUND to figure it out says:
    June 22, 2015 at 9:33 pm
    I’ve noticed that my LL Friend seems to be making all the same mistakes he made with me before …while still blaming me. And I would STILL give him another chance.
    Why? …Because love covers a multitude of sins! If you find that you are unable to forgive your FL simply for the “sin” of letting you go, there’s a good chance that you don’t really have a true love for him. In that case, it really would be better for you to walk away.}

    Then AN “Anon” (I honestly have NO idea how you’d expect that I’d know that there were 3 people using Anon with a capital A!) took exception to my quote, so I replied with:

    {One who was BOUND to figure it out says:
    June 23, 2015 at 12:15 am
    Anon, RE: “You can love someone fully but accept they don’t treat you the way they should, and that is the point you need to walk.”
    ^This^ I agree with, Anon. I wasn’t trying to imply that loving someone meant making yourself into a doormat for them!}

    …Going on to describe my own experience with becoming “a doormat” for someone, and then I concluded with:

    {So instead of implying that someone should be a doormat for love (eek!), I was attempting to point out that we ALL have mistakes we’ve made; we all have regrets & weaknesses; we all have struggles and situations that tend to overwhelm us. When a real love exists, the other person sticks around, loving & supporting, willing to help, encouraging & lifting up.
    In contrast, when someone is harshly critical, unforgiving, and deliberately uncommunicative …there’s usually only a love of one’s self (ego or pride) going on –not a true love for the other person.
    No one can ALWAYS treat the one they love perfectly, since none of us are perfect! Love isn’t quick to judgmentally point fingers. Love takes the time to try to understand the situation and doesn’t rush to think the worst of the other person.
    One day, I know that I will be in a truly loving relationship. That relationship won’t thrive unless each & every day BOTH decide to choose the “US” over the “ME.” And THIS is something I believe with all my heart.}

    The post that I thought might be my LL Friend was actually THIS one by “anonymous” (not the June post by an Anon):

    {anonymous says:
    July 20, 2015 at 8:57 am
    Anon says:
June 22, 2015 at 10:15 pm

    I disagree with you One who was Bound,
    Love covers sins but leaving you was not a sin. It was a choice. Just like it’s a choice now.
    Hmmmmmmm. I Wonder what this means?}

    I believed that it was his way of telling me that he was walking away since he was angry with me at the time. And I did not respond to it.

    The next time that I posted, it was to try to lovingly defend my LL, of course:

    {Forever A Dreamer says:
    July 24, 2015 at 10:57 am
    –Not trying to excuse the behavior, but maybe the person behind all of the fake personas (an oxymoron, I know) simply felt too vulnerable to put his real story here (even with an alias to hide behind) like the rest of us. So, instead, he hid little pieces of truth in each one. In that sense, he only did what the rest of us do: try get some relief from these ridiculously overwhelming feelings in the best way he could! I only have a problem with the fake being taken off of this site …where we are much more real & “exposed” with each other; that’s when it can feel very hurtful. I can’t condone it, but I think I can understand it. ….}

    I would ask just what you are accusing me of lying about, but it really doesn’t matter. My conscience is clear, Person-Who-Hides-Behind-An-Anonymous-Name. I haven’t lied.

    I feel for you Anon! It has to be really tough to come up with something to accuse me with –considering that I’m pretty much a grown-up version of a girl scout! 😀 One of the perks of living a life that’s an open book is that I don’t have to be afraid or intimidated by people such as yourself (..well worth the price of honesty, that’s for sure).

    Feel free to come clean about anything you have on your own conscience, though (bullying, false accusations, whatever…). 😉

  38. Guiltridden says:

    @skeptic thanks for the hugs! Much appreciated and I find this place comforting, just having others who understand and are in similar situations really helps. The fact I’m still here means I’m by no way over this! I’m trying to convince myself I’m making progress but it’s all relative! – if I get through a day thinking of LL only a few times rather than practically every hour of every day that’s better than before…Last night I was at an outdoor music concert and guess who was crying to a heart rendering beautiful rendition of ‘I will always love you! And who I was thinking of

  39. Anon says:

    Open book? Whatever…..
    Your response to my post doesn’t even make sense. The July post is the same post as the one that was posted June 22nd. I just reposted that portion of it. The response you posted above was actually your response to Have Faith’s post.
    If you are going to lie at least make it believable.
    Sweet dreams, Dreamer

  40. PleaseGodCanIBeWithLL says:

    @Dreamer, RE:
    “Ahh, that’s so sad, Please. Wow, your LL has really cycled through the excuses, hasn’t he?! I hate to say it, but it may be for the best if you don’t end up with him –because …would you really want to be with someone who valued his stuff over your love? I know that I wouldn’t! You deserve someone who doesn’t make lame excuses and is willing to stay with (basically) a ruthless live-in business partner –just so that he can hang onto as much of his money as possible. ”

    When LL and I were together and talking about our future, he was always worried about being able to provide for me and giving me everything I wanted. (He just couldn’t get it through his head that he was all I needed and wanted.) I think some of that is still in play here. If long-time live-in GF and business partner dessimates him, he will have to start over from scratch. Wouldn’t be an issue for me, but for him it is. He had a hard time believing back then that he was all I needed and he is having an even harder time now. I loved him as a broke college student, why wouldn’t I love him as a broke adult? I would! But since I was the one who left him all those years ago, due to my mental issues, LL’s confidence in me was really broken. I don’t know if it can be repaired.

  41. MC says:

    This is getting interesting.

  42. Anon with a capital A says:

    The truth is that anyone of us here could lie. We could invent stories and personalities to go along with each of those stories. We could pretend to be the sweetest, most honest person in the world. It would be quite simple to do if someone wanted to. We could invent different personas and use them to talk back and forth to each other. However very few people would even think about doing that. When someone spins enough lies that person will eventually get caught up in their own web, as this interesting exchange shows:

    [Filled With Pain says:
    June 25, 2015 at 8:00 pm
    Good luck Just Once. Glad someone can be happy.

    Filled With Pain says:
    June 25, 2015 at 8:40 pm
    Well, Friend has chosen to value his pride over his love, so I will pick myself up from my failed “leap” and be back tomorrow to say my goodbyes (for good this time, I’m afraid).

    Filled With Pain says:
    June 25, 2015 at 8:41 pm
    Sorry that I stole your name, Angry. You’ll have it back soon. It just fit.]

    Do I have to point out the obvious? No one just takes someone else name and starts posting under it. The obvious reason is that Dreamer was posting under more than one name and screwed up, then needed a way to try to cover up her mistake. She got caught up in her own web.

    It’s been my experience that people who make light of their own virtues (I am known for being honest-to-a-fault) are usually not anything like they pretend to be.

    Should this place become a battleground between spouses, exes, and the FL/LL’s of those spouses? TLWR, you know how frustrating it is to sit back and watch the nonsense. You are in the same boat as me, only you have been vocal about it and I haven’t. Finally, though, one gets tired. Tired of all the emotional bullshit this puts people through and tired of watching the craziness.

    Dreamer, I hope you either decide to come clean or, if you can’t do that, to just stop posting your fake, emotional dramas.

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