When is it (Not) Okay to Lie?

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4 Responses to “When is it (Not) Okay to Lie?”

  1. Lisa says:

    Excellent article that goes beyond psychology and into the realm of ethics. The world would be a kinder place if we asked ourselves that question before making many of the decisions we make, whether they are regarding telling the truth or anything else. I’ve been on the giving end and receiving end of “apologies” such as you describe, the ones designed to relieve my own guilt or that of another. Such “apologies” are a mockery of the purpose of apologizing in the first place. But as you pointed out, guilt can make us do crazy things, including trying to turn those we’ve hurt into our own oppressors. Would it better, do you think, to simply own up to what you’ve done wrong and refuse to be forgiven until you’ve had a chance to somehow make amends? Not always possible, I know. But what say you?

  2. Rob Dobrenski says:

    @Lisa: This is really, really tough for me to wrap my mind around because the terms “forgiven” and “amends” can have so much variability based on person, lie and situation. This could make for another dozen posts.

  3. Lisa says:

    True. As you said, it’s all about motivation. Maybe I should have said it differently, the part about “refus[ing] to be forgiven until you’ve had a chance to somehow make amends.” I guess I’m just trying to find a way to make apologies genuine and without involving self-interest. It is really tough for me to wrap my mind around it too.