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  1. kk says:

    wow – excellent post. thanks!

  2. Shay says:

    Bravo, Dr. Rob.

    Once again, thank you for your insight.

  3. Tracie says:

    I’m fond of the saying “It’s a reason, not an excuse.” Bad things have happened to me, and I’ve been hurt; those things are a reason that I behave in certain ways, but they’re not an excuse for me to treat myself or other poorly. It’s pretty illuminating to identify a harmful behavior pattern and being able to identify a situation that likely triggered it. Therapy is great for kicking off this process of discovery, and it gets easier to do so on your own for most people.

  4. Joe says:

    I’m totally on board with the idea that people have to step up and act like adults at some point, and the earlier the better. I also believe that an important part of this is identifying the causes of one’s dysfunction. But in the instance where someone really has been treated badly by their parents or many members of their family, shouldn’t they hold those family members accountable? Isn’t not blaming your family members akin to a recovering alcoholic hanging out in bars? If you don’t identify the cause of serious problems AND remove that cause from your life, are you really going to recover, or are you just going to rationalize the way you were treated?

    On a related note, everyone’s parents make mistakes and that’s something we all have to accept, but from my experience working with kids and watching people around me growing up, most people who are really screwed up and don’t have a mental illness have some really screwed up parents. What’s wrong with blaming those people who went far beyond normal mistakes? While we’re responsible for our own actions, regardless of what happened to us in childhood, what’s wrong with blaming people who acted badly, even criminally, and left a lasting impression? In my view, society is too soft on violent criminals and the people who produce them. There’s enough blame to go around.

    I say this with the caveat that I am talking about really serious cases of abuse or dysfunction that are necessarily outliers and I’m not suggesting that the average person blacklist their parents from Thanksgiving. But in the example where the girl was beaten by her dad and brothers, why should she forgive them or have anything to do with them?

  5. Dr. Rob says:

    At Joe: I completely understand your point, but there’s a subtle difference between holding someone accountable and blaming to the point that it begins to work against you. The first states “this is unacceptable and is a contributor if not a direct cause of my current state, but I will use your mistakes to understand myself and work with it” the 2nd is “this is your fault and I’m incapable of improving myself because of it.”

  6. Nikolina says:

    Ironically enough, considering the metaphor used in this post, my father would always tell me explicitly that it was my fault that I was ill, and would give me a lot of chores and sometimes quite physically straining tasks to do if I stayed home ill. Often he would stay home saying he was “taking care” of me, and spend the day making sure I was busy and always on my feet.
    He did this kind of thing with any problem I ever had. Emotional? Let’s argue. Struggling with math? Repetition until at least 12pm (too late for a 9 year-old). It took me a long time to learn how to let myself express vulnerabilities and try to fix them.
    I do agree that people can’t spend their whole lives looking back, but to say that a person’s past doesn’t have an affect on their ability to take responsibility or heal can’t really be right in my opinion. Don’t people with these issues have very strong urges to deflect and deny responsibility?

  7. Nicole says:

    I was physically, emotionally and exually abused by my father. I kept it secret for many years and gave him a free pass until about a year ago. Up until then, I had a “normal relationship with him”. Nobody could tell what had transpired between us. I spent holiays with my parents and we all vacationed together once a year. When I started therapy and began talking about my childhood, I discovered how screwed up I am and why I don’t have feelings or can’t sustain any relationships. I’ve never blamed my childhood until my therapist started opening my eyes abou what is really going on. I’m 36, I’m not married, don’t have kids. There is so much I’ve missed because I haven’t been able to be less afraid of so many things. I’m just learning that. So now what? Do I blame myself, my childhood? My parents?

  8. Lindsey says:

    Wow, great post Dr. Rob… Reading this and the previous comments by my fellow readers, a few things came to mind.

    Nicole, I was also abused by my father (and uncle, UGH men) and I can totally related to it affecting your life years and years down the road (I’m 25, I can barely date much less have a relationship). You answering some interesting and really important questions. I don’t think that there is ever going to be an answer to where the blame should lie. However, it was NEVER your fault. That being said, I can only look out from my own eyeballs, and I think after years of therapy, I have really come to peace with the fact that there isn’t any sort of release by going through the psychological agony of trying to figure out where things went wrong… In my case, I think my father was a really messed up guy, who for some deranged reason that it was okay to take his mental psychosis out on a preteen girl.

    Which leads me to my second random thought about this post. Utilizing my ever-so-wonderful health insurance mental health benefits (that is sarcasm by the way), I’ve been in therapy for a long time for depression, anxiety etc. It’s really interesting to be in this position but also in academic psychology, because sometimes I think I have this whole new level of understanding of my own unconscious. I’m not a huge Freud fan, but there is something to be said about bringing the unconscious into the conscious. In terms of parents, I think the take away message here is that it’s a wonderful thing to gain awareness of something that may be affecting you from your childhood. By realizing that it’s there, and by acceptance and understanding, you can oftentimes change the negative behavior/thoughts that come along with it.

    Anyways, I could ramble on and on about this stuff, but I’ll leave it at that :)

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  11. sandy says:

    I frequently find myself saying, “This isn’t about beating up on your parents. It’s about helping you not beat up on yourself.”

  12. Bell says:

    I learned this lesson a few years ago when I found myself starting to exhibit behaviors that I had witnessed in my mom, behaviors that I never would have believed I could repeat. I think the only thing that made me really face why I was doing these things was the fact that my daughter would soon be old enough to become an unwilling participant – just like I had been. I had to go through a lot of pain and change my life in significant ways, but I am in a much better place now. I’m still afraid of passing some of my neuroses to her. But if I do, I hope that she understands I tried my best and learns from it.

  13. Rineva says:

    Great post. I only recently affirmed that my mother is psychologically abusive and has been all my life. As a result, I have begun to pick up more on how my anxiety problems and certain behavioral approaches are rooted in the way she would handle things. I am dedicated to learning to recognize these behaviors, along with my anxiety triggers, so that I will no longer feel any of this.

    It is so crucial to not let yourself be haunted by the past. It is crucial to not waste energy trying to rationalize or point fingers at expectations or circumstances that are now beyond control. Instead, one must learn to understand your weaknesses, and to work with them to develop new strengths. I hardly doubt there is anyone who wants to feel the way that a fractured past makes them forever.

    Survive the past. Do not be a victim of it.

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  17. Anonymous says:

    I think parents DO have an effect on us, but what a/b the positive effect (you just talk a/b the negative parents). I like to think that (except when it comes to guys, duh) I am fairly normal and well-adjusted… where did I learn that? As an adult? No… from my parents. My problem w/ anxiety goes back to the tornado, I’m sure of it… loss of control, etc etc. Prior to that I was a shy, reserved kid but I wasn’t anxious. Fortunately when that happened I had supportive and caring parents… God only knows how I would have turned out if they were not like that when I was traumatized… know what I mean? Anyway, I’m rambling… but I definitely think – Freudian or not – there is something to be said for parents’ influence, good or bad… but there also does become a point where, if they were bad influences, you can choose whether or not to go down the same path or try and make changes (I realize this pretty much says what you said anyway, ha).

  18. This post says:

    “Challenge yourself now to view your past as something to be analyzed and dissected, as opposed to simply a crutch or tool of blame to allow the status quo to continue.”
    R E A L L Y???
    You have a PHD and that’s your advice?
    Yeah, because people who were abused love to use their past as a crutch. I bet you that if you asked anyone who went through abuse, they would rather be mentally healthy and not use crutches to rely on.
    This article is insulting. You are supposed to have empathy. Shut up if you don’t have any.

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  20. Catherine says:

    “Challenge yourself now to view your past as something to be analyzed and dissected, as opposed to simply a crutch or tool of blame to allow the status quo to continue.”

    I spent a good part of my life blaming my mother for all of the abuse that occurred. For allowing a couple that babysit me sexually abuse me.
    For all of the broken bones that she gave me, for all the times she called me stupid, fat, ugly and worthless. That i had to take care of her whenever she went on and off her meds again. That the only time she got out of bed was to beat me.

    I started drinking, self-harm and purging, largely because i believed that life dealt me a shitty hand and i didn’t deserve better.

    I am proud to say that after two years of counseling; I stopped blaming her and her illness and have been able to move on with my life. Not blaming doesn’t mean excusing the behavior that was done but being able to process the anger among many other feelings and leaving that life behind.

    I am now studying to be a social worker.

    Dr. Rob, I have just finished reading Crazy. Thank you for showing me that even though i maybe a little fucked up that i can still help people and maybe even become good at it!

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  23. bubbagump says:

    Having blamed my parents (father) well into my 30′s, then finally – after much therapy, embracing what you mentioned in this blog… “blaming vs. understanding”. Once I understood why my father was the way he was and that deep down he did the best he could with what he had, I was awakened to the idea that I did not have to stay stuck in the “blame game”. Sadly, he died almost ten years before I awakened.
    I realized I could enrich my life by improving myself to go beyond my parents capabilities (without belittling them in the process and doing the “superior attitude”) – “braking the cycle”. Let the journey begin with me.
    I now have a daughter in her late 30′s that is blaming me for most of her misery and short comings in her character. When I had her I was 25 years old, my first child – my first hands on – major learning curve – experience with parenting.
    Her understanding of me is lacking big chunks of my reality as a parent, which she fills in with her own childhood understanding of the world. This is exactly what kept me blaming my father. The cycle continues!!
    Now it is clear to me that I have no control over the way my daughter chooses to look and accept me. My sincere apologies make no difference. She believes I “could have” (the past) done way better.
    Like me – I had to come to the awakening on my own – and she too, on her own, will have to want a different perspective of life where she begins to dislike old emotional forces dictating the course of her precious life.
    I wish each and every one of you the strength and courage to let yourself be free of what others have done to you and know that, whoever they where, they probably had issues happen to them as well, be they -parents, teachers, death, abuse, neglect, medical, mental.
    We all have the power – compassion and understanding is the beginning.

    Peace for a better world starts with each and every one of us. Let’s stop the anger and blame cycle.

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